Divorce in a Spiritist
perspective
Defined as the legal
ending of a marriage,
allowing the couple to
get married again,
divorce was already
known in ancient China,
Greece and Rome, though
it has been legally
instituted
in Brazil
for about thirty years
The instability of the
marriage, which is a
characteristic of this
century, has been
attributed to several
factors. Radbruch says
that, with the
progressive economical
independence of women, a
new right of family has
appeared, different from
the classic Law. At
first, the
disintegration of the
low-class family as the
women ran to the
factories. Later, the
same thing happened to
the bourgeois family,
due to the necessities
of work, and the
economical difficulties.
The absence of the women
at home, in factories or
offices, has been
appointed by many as the
main cause of the
instability of marriage
and, consequently,
divorce.
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Concept and origins of
divorce
In its wide acceptation,
divorce can be defined
as the legal ending of a
marriage. In Brazil, it
was introduced under the
law no 6.515, de
26/12/77, whose art. 24
say that divorce is the
end of a marriage.
Since the old times,
divorce has been quite
frequent. In ancient
China, for example, the
separation existed, but
if the husband deserted
the wife, without a fair
cause, was lashed. In
India, the Manu Smriti
allowed the rejection of
the woman by her
husband, as long as she
had a mortal disease or
alcohol problems, as
well as infertility,
after eight years.
In ancient Greece
divorce was already
known. In Rome, there
was the divortium,
with mutual consent, and
the
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repudium,
started by the husband,
with no motive. At the
end of the Roman Empire
divorce spread and,
according to some, the
exaggeration and
polygamy were important
factors in the
disintegration of family
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Ozanam: "There was the
divorce of good people,
divorce for tiredness,
and the divorce of those
who had a woman per
year. There was divorce
for calculation, as we
have with Cicero, who
rejected Terence, not
because he disliked her,
but because he was in
financial problems.
There was the divorce
for generosity, as with
Cato, who, verifying
that his wife Marcia was
attractive to his friend
Hortensius, gave him as
a wife". |
The opposition to
divorce
The Church started
prohibiting the divorce
after the Council of
Trento, in the Middle
Age. In 1930, the
encyclical Casti
Connubii restated
the thesis of the
insolubility of the
marriage, so to protect
the kids.
Clovis Beviláqua says
that divorce "overwhelms
the spirit and ends up
destroying the psychic
energies useful to the
moral progress of
humanity ". Durkheim, in
his famous book "The
Suicide", shows
statistically that
divorce favors suicide.
Indeed, a survey in
California says that 42%
of suicides were, in
early 50s, divorced.
Others scholars say that
divorce is a factor of
madness. In Bavaria,
survey done at the same
age revealed that 67% of
mad people were
divorced.
Divorce according to
Spiritism
Allan Kardec asked the
Spirits if there is a
law about the
indissolubility of
marriage. The Spirits
said: "It is a human
law, altogether contrary
to the law of nature.
But men may change their
laws; those of nature
are alone unchangeable."
(The Spirits’ Book,
697).
Jesus, talking about it,
said: "And I say unto
you, whosoever shall put
away his wife, except
for fornication, and
shall marry another,
committeth adultery: and
he that marrieth her
when she is put away
committeth adultery."
(Matthew, chap.
19:3 - 9).
The Compiler of
Spiritism, talking about
the subject, wrote: "One
day Man will ask
If it is more humane,
more charitable, more
moral, to chain one
being to another when
they are unable to live
together, than to
restore their liberty;
whether the prospect of
an indissoluble prison
will increase the number
of irregular unions."
(The Gospel According
to Spiritism, chap.
22:4).
And, focusing on
divorce, he said:
"Divorce is a man-made
law whose objective is
to legally separate
those who are in fact
already separated. It is
not against God's law,
since it only reforms
what men have done and
is only applicable in
cases in which Divine
law was not taken into
account.”
Kardec remembers that
Jesus did not sanction
the absolute
indissolubility of
marriage, and goes even
further, because He
specifies a case in
which repudiation is
justified: that of
adultery. Well, adultery
cannot exist where there
is sincere reciprocated
affection.
Conclusion
After Kardec, other
authors vented their
feelings about the
subject.
To Emmanuel, divorce
needs to be considered
as a last resort. He
said:
"A home built by love
needs love to keep it
up.”
"It is not denied unto
you the right of putting
off accomplishments or
increase the deadline
for paying off some
debts, since no one can
take criminality for the
sake of love.”
“However, in the hard
days of a home remembers
that divorce is just,
but only as a last
resort.”
(Emmanuel, in “The
Era of Spirit”,
chap. 11.)
José Herculano Pires
trouxe também sua
contribuição sobre o
assunto:
“He, who loves,
understands and
forgives. Difficulties
will be overcome day
after day by the
cultivation of love.”
“Cultivation of love is
like cultivation of Art.
And those who break up a
loving marriage, for the
sake of intolerance,
will no longer find
remedy for his
loneliness."
(J. Herculano Pires, in
“The Era of Spirit",
cap. 11.)
André Luiz showed us,
about it, an innovative
view, comparing divorce
to a postponed event,
as we see in this text:
"Divorce, postponed
edification, the
interest to pay in the
balance of the debtor
Spirit. This happens
because one of the
spouses, partners in
this company called
marriage, forgot that
the rights of the
domestic institution add
up equal rights.”
"We shall help, on
Earth, the comprehension
of marriage as a
consortium of
realizations and mutual
concessions, whose
failure has to be
avoided.”
(André Luiz, in “Sun
in the Souls”, chap. 10.)
At last, Divaldo Franco
talked about this topic:
"The Spiritist Doctrine
sees as a`necessary
evil' the solution
by divorce. Time will
come when man will
choose his spouse more
carefully, with maturity
and love and,
consequently, will bear
up the vicissitudes that
come from this choice,
getting rid of what is
constituted as a burden,
since he has the eyes on
the spiritual life, the
real one."
(Divaldo P. Franco, in
O IMORTAL, p. 6 - 7
June 1984.)
Concluding, we say that:
1) Spiritism accepts
divorce when both
spouses are already
separated. Divorce will
be then a legal form to
say so.
2) Divorce must be taken
as a last resort, when
there is no atmosphere
whatsoever between the
spouses.
3) Divorce, postponed
edification, the
interest to pay in the
balance of the debtor
Spirit.
4) All the problems
generated from the
separation will add in
the report of the one
who caused it.
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